10 TIPS TO HELP YOU BUILD YOUR SELF-ESTEEM  

Self-esteem is something that you cannot buy at the market or borrow from a friend or a family member. Self-esteem is something that you develop over many years. It cannot be wished and obtained in a matter of days or improved without effort in a matter of hours in a self-help workshop. However, you can practice daily within your life routine to lift up your self-esteem with some of these technics that will be given. The technics might seem unimportant but when practiced regularly and added with some other actions, can have a significant impact on the way you feel about yourself. 

   1. Stop being too critical of yourself. Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy by continually criticizing yourself about how you look and how you should have behaved in certain situations. 

   2. Squelch that Inner critic and know that everyone looks beautiful because beauty is on the eyes of the beholder.

   3. Stop relieving the past events and situations regardless of how you think you should have behaved. The situation is past and over. Move on and leave it in the past as there is absolutely nothing you could do to change it. Make amends, forgive and if you have to apologize, then do so and keep living your life.

   4. Stop telling yourself that “you are stupid when you fail at something”. Look at your mistakes with a mirror instead of using a magnifying glass to examine them. Instead consider that in the near future, change needs to be made and that you are going to do better. Remind yourself how great you are doing in some other areas in your life. Consider your mistakes as opportunities for you to know yourself better as a teaching experience. Learn from the mistakes without feeling guilty or belittling yourself. Take them as a growth experience and a reminder for you to do things differently next time. 

   5.Learn to say thank you the next time someone gives you a compliment. Do not overlook it or downplay the compliment. Just say thank you. Instead of saying “I’m just doing my job” or “what choice did I have but to do it?” Always respond positively. When someone says “you are beautiful” or “that you look nice today” just say thank you without mumbling something in protest. 

   6. Don’t allow yourself room for self-pity. Don’t wallow in self-pity; if impossible, don’t dwell there for longer than you supposed to. Think happy thoughts or force yourself to think of something else positively.

The number one rule for success is to never compare yourself with others. Only compare yourself to yourself through your own improvements. Therefore, concentrate on improving your past performance. 

   7. Learn to appreciate yourself. Appreciate and celebrate your achievements, however little or big. Give yourself time to feel good whenever you reach an objective. Better yet, allow yourself time for fun before starting another project.

   8. Surround yourself with good friends. Friends that care about you and are not afraid to show it to you or to let you know that they care. Remember to keep only good friends, because friends are crucial to positive self-esteem and an important source of support and objectivity.

   9. Count your blessings. Always remember your achievements by making a list of all of your achievements. Be grateful for your own achievements and other people’s achievements. Whenever you feel cheated by life, check the list of your achievements and smile with gratitude.

   10. When you feel the need to say No. Just say No. Recognize what you are good at. We are all good at something, whether it’s cooking, singing, dancing, gymnastics, filming, braiding, swimming and pursue it while being kind to yourself through the process.

Written by Ahmed Tatieta, author, publisher, healer, minister.

Books @ www.ahmedtatieta.com

Tatieta Book Publishing, LLC